Changes, and A Good Cry

The leaves and needles are falling, there’s change all over my backyard.

Nature is transitioning, and the cold is coming.

Nature mimics our lives.

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Change/transition can sometimes bring the cold too:

problems,

heartache,

and pain.

At times, ABSOLUTE TRAUMA.

Life can change out of nowhere, with not even a hint of warning…

loss of a job, a bad report from the doctor, a friend’s unfounded betrayal,

death.

And with it, brings heartache.

Deep, deep sadness.

The deepest pit.

Heartache [only YOU know] because it’s YOURS.

You own it at its deepest level.

bird fighting the snow and cold in Indiana


Yes, people can offer advice, words of comfort, even wisdom…

BUT words feel like a band-aid. You can’t really take them in.

You don’t want any more words.

You dread to see anyone. I mean how do you answer?

You feel you just can’t take anymore.

Finally, your body breaks down in a good cry. A hard cry. A shaking kind of cry.

A cry your body can’t hold in any longer.

And it pleads for a meeting with God.

A quiet, still place where He brings His presence. HIS sweet, wonderful presence.

It’s POWERFUL.

No one’s talking. It’s just still.

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That undeniable presence consumes your space.

You KNOW He’s near.

You.Can.Sense.It 

in every part of your being.

Only GOD can do that.

Only GOD really gets you.

He knows your deepest pain like no other.

Only HE can comfort.

Yes, HE knows you intimately.

He promises to get right in there and feel your sorrow with you.

He’s present…He really is.

Right alongside you.


We live in a fallen world with many hurts and disappointments.

This isn’t how we saw our lives.

This wasn’t the plan.

People weren’t supposed to be so mean.

My loved one was to be here for many, more years.

But..life happens and you’re caught off guard.

There’s no stopping it, or asking for a do-over.

You can never be prepared.

Lean on God, pour out your heart.

Feel embraced and loved today.

He gets it. He really does.

More than anyone else.

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And yes, someday…

Someday…IT WILL ALL MAKE SENSE.

That is the HOPE I choose to lean on;

to cling to.

It’s my ONLY choice, really.

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Taking the Fun Out of Fall for Everyone

When I first saw this, I thought…

well, if that doesn’t take all the fun out of FALL for A LOT of people!

Then, I thought…

a lot of my friends are going to be upset when they see how someone broke down their Pumpkin Spice Latte! HA

At this time, every year, I read all over facebook how people can’t wait for this season to roll around, just so they can go out and buy one,

or two, or three.

Thus, this poster jumped into my head.

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Her First Wedding Anniversary

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Yesterday was our 29th wedding anniversary but today is my daughter and son-n-law’s FIRST.

My husband and I reflected on our first and thought of how many, many years have passed.

Some years seemed very slow. but as we age

and age…

THEY.SPEED.UP

Almost too fast!!

Sometimes, it seems sad.

We’re empty nesters now because our son just got married in August.

My advice to young people. (Yeah, you know you want to hear it. ha)

Barn wedding in Georgia

Yes, have fun.

Yes to adventure.

But don’t be going, doing, talking, moving so often that you don’t slow down.

You may just risk burning yourself out. And then, it’s too late.

Always take the time to be purposeful. Purposely slow down and take in the moment.

Be present.

Put your phone down.

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Have meaningful conversations face to face.

You’ll never regret it.

I promise!

Someday, you’ll be right where I am thinking about how you could

have slowed down even more.

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Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Let things go.

Choose your battles.

Schedule in reflective time.

Make a memory.

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If you want to see more wedding pics,  I wrote about the wedding day here:

http://wp.me/p5ntHO-aZ


*all photos ©Haley Dawn Photography & property of this site thentherestwo.com

Don’t Judge…You Cannot Know the Pain Someone Is Going Through

Don’t Judge…You Cannot Know the Pain Someone Is Going Through

 

Don't judge...for you can never know another's pain.

Aging Ain’t for Cowards

Aging ain’t for cowards.

Yeah, you youngins can’t relate…but just wait.

Oh, I too was that kid, young adult…even 40 yr. old that thought, “I’ll never look like that, I’ll never have those, I’ll never be…” (fill in the blank).

It’s coming to you, TOO!

Old age:

Menopause.

Poor eyesight.

Wrinkles.

You know, the guy who finally can afford the hot, new, sports car.You look over, and he’s as old as your grandpa. And wearin’ a gold chain, at that!

God bless ’em…enjoy that car!

YOU’VE EARNED IT!

Yes, we all are going to age and with it has come some lovely, side benefits..NOT!

Oh, you might think it gross, unpleasant to talk of, but surely it IS coming.

There’s no gettin’ around it! 😮

We all have hoped we will age gracefully.

That no wheelchair, nursing home, or ailment will befall us

not to be negative-just REAL —

One never knows what the next day will hold.

So, ENJOY today!

Be kind. Help someone.

Do what you’ve always wanted to do.

And do it skin tag free! HA

Getting older and skin tags.

It’s Not All About YOU!

It's not all about you!

You know, it’s not all about you!

My facebook rant today: I am absolutely amazed, confounded, and concerned by so many, esp. in the 20-30 age range, that don’t know our world’s history, nor even know what’s going on today. I feel we’ve become such a self absorbed culture that it’s turned us into a zombie-like nation. I’d like to think we weren’t that clueless when I was that age, but maybe I was blind. Reaching out to a neighbor, the idea of “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes”, taking time to listen to & learn from the life lessons of your elders (whether you agreed with them or not), respecting others’ differences or opinions, traveling abroad in order to serve, just looking to help anywhere, anyhow… wearing yourself out for OTHERS. All this was encouraged, expected even. It was all part of gaining perspective, becoming a valuable citizen, a person of integrity & character, a person your parents, and God, would be proud of. ‪#‎broadenyourworldview‬ ‪#‎servingremovesselfishness‬ ‪#‎turnoffthetv‬ ‪#‎putdowntheiphone‬ ‪#‎getoutsideofYOU‬~ Tammy