Sometimes I think it would be better to live like the Amish.

It just seems like a simpler way of life.

Oh, don’t get me wrong. I realize they work hard.

Extremely hard!

It’s VERY EVIDENT by the immaculate farms they keep.

There are times I tell my husband I’m going to get rid of all our technology and become Amish.

I just think that kind of simple living could be a blessing we are missing.


Now, if you knew more about me you would find I really have enjoyed learning all about website development, graphic design, videography, film editing, you name it.

And, my brain is swimming most days; it’s all been a huge learning curve for me.

(I knew nothing of jargon like: SEO, widgets, affiliate marketing, meta tags, web hosting…)

The last few years have been like learning a foreign language. 

But teaching myself kind of made me feel proud… learning all this in my 50s. 😉

I’ve always been a lover of learning and believe in being a student of multiple subjects.

A lifelong learner I will always be. 👩🏼‍🎓

I just feel God blessed us with a thinking mind and great opportunities, so we shouldn’t squander it, and should always be looking to broaden our knowledge by learning something new.

Now, I know I could easily get wrapped up in trying to learn one more thing about my phone, website design, you name it…

I also feel it could be harmful, if not careful.


Don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel we should totally absolve technology or refuse to buy the latest gadget,

I just feel there’s a fine,

VERY FINE, balance as with everything in life.

For instance, my husband and I have noticed, especially while eating out, that a lot of families are just not communicating anymore.

They’re all on their phones throughout their entire mealtime even when it’s obvious it’s a special occasion like Mother’s Day or a birthday.

It’s like face-to-face conversation is nil.

I don’t know, maybe they feel awkward or easily bored and need entertained by a device.

But isn’t there always something to be learned from another person?

At least I feel that way.

Often, we’ve  discussed how sad it is that families no longer sit and talk with each other, at length. What happened to long talks by the fireside or singing Christmas carols around the piano?

Many times, we would visit with our in-laws, go out to an early dinner (they liked eating early😉) and then we’d head back to their house where we’d sit for five or six hours just talking.

Even as the hour approached 11, 12 PM, knowing we still had an hour’s drive home, we still really never regretted it, one bit.

Talking.

Just talking.

And, almost always, we would end up praying for different family members that weren’t even there at the time.

Not long ago, my daughter (who now lives out-of-state) traveled back here to our home. After we had all traveled together to visit with other family, she shared she had never heard a particular story that had just been shared.

During the drive home she acted surprised, and her exact words were,

“I didn’t know that!”

And later I thought, you know, she would have TOTALLY missed out on that information had she been on her phone or maybe that person would’ve never shared their story had they felt everyone seemed more interested in their phones.

Possibly, our family history would’ve been missed for all generations to come.

I feel like I became more aware of the influence of technology on our relationships about two years ago. Family had traveled in for the holidays, and as I looked around the room I noticed just about everyone was on their phones.

Both old and young alike. 😒

And I began thinking, you know, there are elderly people in the room and they just may not be here next year. I mean, one never knows, right? Or, maybe that person is  younger, but they’ve had some major struggles, and their health isn’t that good.

I also thought, what does that say about us if we travel to come visit family, yet can’t even sit long enough to talk face-to-face with each other. When that might be the only few hours we’re all together?

We either have to leave to go and find something “fun” to do, turn on the TV, or pick up our phones.

No one can even sit still any longer!

By taking the time to be present, I just think there are many wonderful lessons to be learned, values to be passed down, wisdom to glean, and like I said, family history will be lost if we don’t pass it along to the younger generations.

I don’t know, maybe it’s just me, but I really enjoy people and like hearing their life stories.

Heck, a person might just learn patience. And that life is not all about them.

Imagine that! (said in a sarcastic tone)


I had to quit work eight years ago, because my health was so unpredictable and failing fast.

“Life” couldn’t be planned any longer, and I had spent many a weekend, sometimes months at a time, feeling like a prisoner in my home.

Just the simple things like grocery shopping, or going to a social event, even visiting family wasn’t possible. (Sometimes, that still is difficult for me.)

And I used to think I was really good at nurturing relationships and putting into practice all these things I mentioned above. I always loved talking to and listening to people.

But now I see I could have done even better.

I view things from a TOTALLY different perspective now.

I realize time is too short, life can change in an instant and every moment is precious.

To be present is WAY more important.

Things/activities really can wait.

One should never be too busy.

You really can always say, “NO”….

you don’t have to do everything, ya know?

AND, you can choose to limit things in your life.

If people don’t understand, that’s their problem.

That’s why I referred to the Amish as possibly having the right idea.

Life “can” always be busy, and be assured IT will always try to stress you and just maybe, technology has added to that problem by robbing us of our interpersonal relationships.

In January, my thoughts were validated when I watched an interview with Simon Sinek.

Maybe you’ve seen it.

If you haven’t, you really need to go watch it. He describes how social media has affected us, young people, especially.

But, he also addresses how the mind responds to social media and feeds addictive tendencies in the brain.

The entire video is REALLY interesting!

This video went viral, and was all over the internet including fB, (which is kind of ironic) but I think it became so popular because it really made people stop and think because it resonated TRUTH.

I was like, YES! Someone is clearly describing exactly what I’ve said/felt/observed!

I found his comments both fascinating and quite alarming.

Here’s the link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hER0Qp6QJNU&t=483s


Now, I’m sure there are some Amish kids who would prefer an iPhone over hearing what their chores will be for the upcoming week.

But maybe, just maybe, we would be wise to step back and evaluate just how much time we spend on our phones or other social media for that matter.

Think about how much quality time we truly are giving other people.

By listening to others, there are so many lessons to be learned, values to be passed down, and wisdom to glean.

And by observing someone’s body language and voice inflection, you will better understand where a person is coming from rather than trying to decipher their text.

It makes for a lot less misinterpretation. IT’s A PROVEN FACT!

Most importantly, by being face-to-face it might even make us human beings a little more patient–providing more understanding and compassion for where another person has walked.

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17 thoughts on “A Simpler Life: The Amish Could Teach Us Some Things

  1. A very good post of reflecting on simple life. I always like a simple life. When neighbors kept remortgage their homes to get money for remodeling, I felt no pressure. I’d rather save the money. My daughter and son-in-law were very much aware of the tech. part affecting social life. They resisted getting a smartphone for 10 years!! They finally got one (each) and post something on FB, their friends said, Congrats, you’re 10 years late!! They are now using it for a lot of thing, such as share calendar, budget sheet, planning, photos. Not so much using it in place of face to face conversation. So they keep a good balance. We went out to dinner, we saw the table next to ours, apparently a young pair were dating. The guy was on the phone all the time, the gul didn’t know what to do, eventually also took out a phone. Poor young people! They have no face to face social skills! We have a family family of 3G for 4 phones. I use about 0.1 G a month….!

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    1. Yes, we were also some of the last people to get cellphones then iPhones. I just think social media, even blogging, really anything for that matter, has to be balanced. It shouldn’t take so much of our time that it takes away from of our relationship with God, and perhaps what he’s calling us to do in regards to servanthood, nor with those who are closest to us.

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      1. Yes, I keep a balance of Bible study, counseling at church, choir; personal – gardening, learning at the institute for the retired; and blogging. Since I still suffer nerve damage on my feet due to chemo of cancer, I have limited hours of mobility. Have to spread things out. Whenever we can, we visit our daughter and her husband in Portland, OR, preparing to be grandma. Boy, am I busy How do you balance your life! Your kids are grown up and you have empty nest now?

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      2. Well, sadly I am not able to do all that much now due to daily pain and mobility issues along
        with other tedious health problems that keep me busy just trying to feel good. But, I do a lot of
        Bible study online and read through the Bible each year with dailyaudiobible.com. If I’m feeling well I head
        to church on Suns. or Weds. I used to sing as part of a praise team and taught classes as well as attended
        weekly Bible studies for ladies. I’m also trying to reach out to my community when I can. We presently are
        trying to assist and help celebrate holidays with a local Afghan family. That’s my main focus presently. We’re big missions givers so that’s my HEART. 🙂

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      3. I’m not as active as before the cancer. Right now I get up at 9-10 am, and just do one or two major things a day. I’m not saying that I’ve done my share, but people in my fellowship group also started having major problems, two passed away from Parkinson, and Alzheimer. Some are still in chemo treatments. Some just watch the life stream of Sunday service at home!

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      4. Yes, I’m seeing a lot of Christians coming under major attack. My father-n-law passed last yr with Parkinson’s. I am so thankful for the Internet in that I can watch services online when I’m not feeling well; it’s really helped me the last eight years.

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    2. Yes, I’m trying to downsize too. We hope to have a smaller home when my husband retires in 2 yrs. We may be moving south, near my daugher, in hopes of better weather for my health. My son just moved out of state too but we don’t see a way to stay near him in the cold!! I prefer to spend my money on mission efforts or to travel, which I can’t do so much of anymore. 😦 How do you get around now with your mobility issues. I see you travel quite a bit? Prayers for you!

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      1. We have been doing one major (international, or Hawaii) travel each year. Each trip is less than 10 days. Now my daughter is expecting, we go to Portland, OR a lot. We had the house paid off, even a smaller home would be more expensive than we want to pay. We’ll sit tight for a while before we do anything such as moving. For my health, the weather in southern CA is just right for me, winter is not too long. When we get older, or my feet get worse (damaged nerves), we’ll start taking cruises!

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      2. We hope to have our home paid off in two years also. I think it will be hard giving up our land but our house is just too much to keep up as we age. And the winters are just killing me here with my dry eyes and skin disease.

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